To be perfectly clear, my mom’s date of death is unknown. I prefer it this way; in my opinion it should be this way. We don’t know how much time we have so you should live your life to the best of your ability.
It was only during these several years; prior to Alzheimer’s, that my mom began to enjoy life. Yes, she loved her kids, and they brought her great joy; however, life just had a way to dish out ‘treats’ for my mom to gobble up! Let’s just say that my mom didn’t think that life treated her fairly, at all! Can you imagine living 87 years and not being happy for most of those years? My mom was unhappily married for 40 years! 40 years! That seems unbelievable and unbearable but that’s how it used to be.
If nothing else, her final arrangements should be made so as to adhere to her beliefs, and wishes. This is exactly how I spent most of my Monday afternoon. Yes; it’s true, picture me picking coffin styles, colours, and material of coffin and then flowers! We discussed what would be done, what wouldn’t be done, and everything before, during and after. #funnotfun
Long term care residences need to know what to do with the body when someone passes away. They don’t have a holding facility and they need the room to be vacated immediately so as to give it to the next person on the waiting list. It seems cold, and heartless but that’s the way it is.
I’ve brought all of the information home and now must make my final decisions within the next few days, which includes payment. Do you know what a funeral costs these days? Plan on it being a minimum of 12 thousand dollars, give or take several bucks.