Are you happy?
This short question; at first, seems simple enough to answer. Upon considerable reflection, I hesitate to answer without closer inspection. A “check-in” with the soul is always wise. Ask yourself:
- Do I like where/how I live?
- Do I enjoy who is in my life?
- Does my job bring me joy?
- Is there an area in my life that I can improve?
Your list of questions may either be longer or shorter; what’s important is that you take a closer look at yourself, and your life. You might discover that you are living in utter bliss, or you might truly be unhappy … you can slowly alter the areas in your life that are lacking.
That’s why divorce exists. You can easily say “I quit” and; this was the hardest word for me to learn, you can say “No”. Yes; it’s okay to say “no”! At first, it’s strange to say but it does get easier. After all, why should you be stuck doing things for others when you barely have time for you? You deserve good things too! You deserve to be happy.
For a long time I lived a very unhappy life. I struggled. I hurt. I fell into deep depression … for a long time. On a positive note, I’ve also spent a long time healing. I’m not sure I can forgive or forget; however, I have distanced myself from all those who have not and/or do not emotionally support me. It’s just too tiring and too painful to be dragged through the muck … all the time! I’m done with that.
Thank the Lord.
Am I happy? Once I learned to be grateful for what I have, and to want less, I learned that little things do make me happy. I’m still working on the Big things, and I’m confident that it’ll get easier. I’m happy that I have the freedom to choose what I want.
So, the question remains, are you happy?