Good Morning; happy Monday. I’m sorry, I’m going to vent again …
Something tells me that I’ll be needing to do so more often, going forward. Those nasty “teenager years”! … or are they? Think about it; how do I know it’s not about those teen years? Maybe it’s just the way my daughter is?! What I mean is, am I going to use “those teen years” as an excuse for everything? Shouldn’t my daughter be held accountable for what she says or does? Isn’t that the way she’ll learn?! How many times do I have to bite my tongue before I have a meltdown? Is it fair to me to have to be yelled at by my 14 year old? She’ll say “sorry” afterwards, and explain either that she’s frustrated, or angry … but that’s getting old because I hear it so often.
If it were me listening to this story, I’d suggest getting help with anger-management. I’m not averse to this idea, whether my daughter is in agreement or not!
I’m tired of all the drama, screaming, and arguing. I know that she’s trying to “get away with as much as possible” because that’s just what teenagers do. I don’t want to get into the screaming matches, and I don’t want to make things worse either. Considering that my daughter is only 14, there are many more years of this to come!
I’m not sure there’s a solution in all of this, and I know it’ll pass one day. In the meanwhile, all I can do is vent.
This is the wonderful stuff I told you would come… but rest assured you only have to deal with it until she grows up, (around age 22-23) or until you kill her… lol….
It really is just what teenagers do… remember back to when you were a teen during those really trying moments and you might find an easier way to deal with her. This is what I have had to do, and it works… sometimes….
My heart goes out to you… I know how tough it is.
Sorry doesn’t count in repetitive abusive behaviour even if it is your kid. You don’t need to have a meltdown to command the respect you deserve as the parent. It should be a given freely, but i ask for what is owed you. ALWAYS!